In this case,
Beginning to learn evolutionary psychology friends often have such a question: evolutionary psychology is very interesting, can give some common things to provide a unique interpretation of perspective, but only just explain it? Can provide some of the more practical recommendations to help us better work and life? Of course.
In this case,
First look at such a scene: the middle of the night, the man and his girlfriend quarrel, and he alone pique to the bar to drink boring wine, the cup of wine drained, he turned to ask the people on the edge: Hey, man, you say a woman in the end What do you want? Another man without looking up, said: If I know, I will not drink you in this and boring. Have you ever heard a joke? What is the difference between a terrorist and a mad woman? The answer is that you can at least negotiate with the terrorists. They finished laughing. At the same time, his girlfriend is to call girlfriends, while crying, said: He did not understand what I want! .
In this case,
Although the two species of men and women coexist on earth for 100 years, but so far the two people's communication is still difficult, but fortunately evolutionary psychology to help. The reason women and men communicate with each other is that the way they think is completely different, and neither side even realizes it. And because men can successfully communicate with men, women can communicate smoothly and women, so both sides think that the problem is not in itself, and in each other. The result is that, in the eyes of men, women a little nervous, in the woman's view, men probably do not love themselves.
In this case,
Let us start from the leisure activities of male and female leisure time to analyze. Men like football, basketball, rugby, computer games, and so on, while women like soap opera, shopping, shopping, chat gossip. Men like things full of antagonism, is to a showdown, and the need to use a large number of hand-brain coordination and spatial measurement capabilities. Look at those football basketball stars, just be able to estimate the distance, speed, angle, you can get a huge return. Women like things completely in relation to maintenance-oriented. The best way to achieve a woman's satisfaction is interpersonal communication, including communication with her boyfriends, husbands, friends, relatives, children, chatting, communication and so on. Men can not understand why there is so much between women to say, the same, a woman can not understand why men always points to compete before they give up.
In this case,
In ancient times, men and women have different social division of labor, men are responsible for hunting, the whole family to rely on his hunting skills have food to eat, if he can not correctly estimate the distance, speed, angle, To prey, that the whole family should be hungry. Hunting, of course, can not be single-handedly, he must and teamwork, and in the team to prove their value, or even hit the prey will not be distributed to him. Women are left behind at home, because women do not participate in hunting activities, then the men get the valuable food how to get it? In addition to relying on a man in love with her no other way. Women at the time were not able to survive on their own, as men did, and they could not survive if they were not able to handle their relationship with others well. Women talk about gossip in order to obtain information in order to facilitate the interpersonal problems before they find a solution. Look at the soap opera is to understand how other people deal with such problems.
In this case,
Men's brains are set to find and solve problems. The woman's brain is set up to establish relationships and maintain relationships. Under pressure from some formidable puzzles, men tend to solve their own problems, and because they need to spend a lot of brainpower to solve problems, so he will become silent. At this point the woman was afraid, because the same under pressure, women tend to find someone to talk to. This is easy to understand, this is the weak woman, if you do not find someone to talk that she can not solve alone. At the same time, some people can talk to show that she is not alone. So the contradiction appeared.
In this case,
Men's silence often makes women feel afraid, because only in some extreme pressure, women will choose silence. For example, she did not love him, so there is no problem and he said. But this time the man's silence only that he was considering the problem, out of fear, the woman tried to let him speak, but this way to interrupt the man's ideas, men can not speak while thinking about the issue, which makes a man very angry . So men let the woman shut up. This sentence makes a woman more convinced that the relationship between the two is a problem.
In this case,
Men often complain about women's chatter, because the woman said a lot of work life problems encountered, the man's brain is set to solve the problem, so men think women thrown him numerous problems need to be resolved, this Is the source of his troubles. But you have to know that women just want to find a personal conversation only, in fact, she does not care whether you give the solution (many problems themselves have no solution), she just wants you to listen to her to maintain and your relationship, so you just show You can listen. Women are emotional animals, a good mood when the problem is not a problem, bad mood when no problem also come up with the problem. When she finished, a good mood, the problem naturally solved. You see, the truth was so simple, it is surprising that hundreds of thousands of years, men and women actually do not know each other these!
Beginning to learn evolutionary psychology friends often have such a question: evolutionary psychology is very interesting, can give some common things to provide a unique interpretation of perspective, but only just explain it? Can provide some of the more practical recommendations to help us better work and life? Of course.
In this case,
First look at such a scene: the middle of the night, the man and his girlfriend quarrel, and he alone pique to the bar to drink boring wine, the cup of wine drained, he turned to ask the people on the edge: Hey, man, you say a woman in the end What do you want? Another man without looking up, said: If I know, I will not drink you in this and boring. Have you ever heard a joke? What is the difference between a terrorist and a mad woman? The answer is that you can at least negotiate with the terrorists. They finished laughing. At the same time, his girlfriend is to call girlfriends, while crying, said: He did not understand what I want! .
In this case,
Although the two species of men and women coexist on earth for 100 years, but so far the two people's communication is still difficult, but fortunately evolutionary psychology to help. The reason women and men communicate with each other is that the way they think is completely different, and neither side even realizes it. And because men can successfully communicate with men, women can communicate smoothly and women, so both sides think that the problem is not in itself, and in each other. The result is that, in the eyes of men, women a little nervous, in the woman's view, men probably do not love themselves.
In this case,
Let us start from the leisure activities of male and female leisure time to analyze. Men like football, basketball, rugby, computer games, and so on, while women like soap opera, shopping, shopping, chat gossip. Men like things full of antagonism, is to a showdown, and the need to use a large number of hand-brain coordination and spatial measurement capabilities. Look at those football basketball stars, just be able to estimate the distance, speed, angle, you can get a huge return. Women like things completely in relation to maintenance-oriented. The best way to achieve a woman's satisfaction is interpersonal communication, including communication with her boyfriends, husbands, friends, relatives, children, chatting, communication and so on. Men can not understand why there is so much between women to say, the same, a woman can not understand why men always points to compete before they give up.
In this case,
In ancient times, men and women have different social division of labor, men are responsible for hunting, the whole family to rely on his hunting skills have food to eat, if he can not correctly estimate the distance, speed, angle, To prey, that the whole family should be hungry. Hunting, of course, can not be single-handedly, he must and teamwork, and in the team to prove their value, or even hit the prey will not be distributed to him. Women are left behind at home, because women do not participate in hunting activities, then the men get the valuable food how to get it? In addition to relying on a man in love with her no other way. Women at the time were not able to survive on their own, as men did, and they could not survive if they were not able to handle their relationship with others well. Women talk about gossip in order to obtain information in order to facilitate the interpersonal problems before they find a solution. Look at the soap opera is to understand how other people deal with such problems.
In this case,
Men's brains are set to find and solve problems. The woman's brain is set up to establish relationships and maintain relationships. Under pressure from some formidable puzzles, men tend to solve their own problems, and because they need to spend a lot of brainpower to solve problems, so he will become silent. At this point the woman was afraid, because the same under pressure, women tend to find someone to talk to. This is easy to understand, this is the weak woman, if you do not find someone to talk that she can not solve alone. At the same time, some people can talk to show that she is not alone. So the contradiction appeared.
In this case,
Men's silence often makes women feel afraid, because only in some extreme pressure, women will choose silence. For example, she did not love him, so there is no problem and he said. But this time the man's silence only that he was considering the problem, out of fear, the woman tried to let him speak, but this way to interrupt the man's ideas, men can not speak while thinking about the issue, which makes a man very angry . So men let the woman shut up. This sentence makes a woman more convinced that the relationship between the two is a problem.
In this case,
Men often complain about women's chatter, because the woman said a lot of work life problems encountered, the man's brain is set to solve the problem, so men think women thrown him numerous problems need to be resolved, this Is the source of his troubles. But you have to know that women just want to find a personal conversation only, in fact, she does not care whether you give the solution (many problems themselves have no solution), she just wants you to listen to her to maintain and your relationship, so you just show You can listen. Women are emotional animals, a good mood when the problem is not a problem, bad mood when no problem also come up with the problem. When she finished, a good mood, the problem naturally solved. You see, the truth was so simple, it is surprising that hundreds of thousands of years, men and women actually do not know each other these!
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